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Theirs is a practical as well as loving bond. Cambridge, Mass. therapists Richard and AntraKalnins Borofsky, counsel couples in tandem by openly exploring their own 21-year marriage. "What we're doing here is not just being coworkers—we're actually showing our relationship: The way we work together is the meszsage as much as whatever we say," Richard told the Boston Globe in a recent interview. So what is the message? Learn how connection is created and sustained. It is created by paying attention to what is happening in the present moment. "Relating is an exchange in which something is given and something is received," says Richard, "and the ease and frequency of exchanges between people determine how deep the bond is." And how can fighting help a relationship? "The fight is simply that we're both hungry for attention," says Antra. "The question is which one of us is more hungrywho needs to be fed first. And who has some attention to give." "The short and long of love is attention, the quality of awareness, the art of attentiveness," says Richard. "We're the only people I know who have this sort of focus."

Must be something in the Cambridge air. Jeff Nothnagle, who commutes an hour and back to his Cohasset home on the South Shore, has been promoted to senior vice president, commercial lending, at Cambridge Savings Bank. Jeff and Taffy are married 30 years, have three children, sail and race all summer, and ski all winter. Except for a brief stint in marketing, Jeffs been in banking almost as long as he has been married.

Marrying the boss's daughter was not good enough for Jeff Weaver. He married the boss nearly 30 years ago on his first job as manager of hospital food services for Marriott. Now Jeff, Kay, and daughter Jennifer live in McClean, Va., where Jeff is partner at Gates, Hudson & Associates, a commercial property management firm, and recently elected co-vice president/programs for the Northern Virginia National Association of industrial and Office Properties.

Steve Buckley, publisher of the Troy (N.Y.) Record since 1992, has been elected a director of the Society of the Friends of St. Patrick. He's had a long career in newspaper publishing beginning in 1968 at The Daily Record in Morristown, N.J., and a busy schedule of volunteer work including several boards in Troy and acting as Troy's representative on the governor's commission for the capital district. Steve and Sue have two daughters and a granddaughter and live in Brunswick, N.Y.

There's still time to make your plans for the great fall Homecoming mini-reunion the class of' 63 has planned for October 18-19. Call Airport Economy Inn in West Lebanon (1-800-433-3466) by September 18, and request a room in the 1963 block. If you don't yet have a ticket for the Yale game, call the football ticket office at the College and sit in the class section. There will be a parade, Friday night, before the bonfire, a class executive meeting Saturday morning, and cocktails and more following the game. If you need to know more, call Bob Bysshe, mini-reunion chair, (212) 454-3727. An don't forget the post-game Harvard mini-reunion behind the Harvard B-school on November 2 before and after the game.

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